Quite often, Christians marry non-Christians or "merely professed Christians" and therefore can end up feeling "unequally yoked" to their spouse. As time goes on, the desire for the Christian to go deeper in their relationship with Christ can begin to cause a rift between the spouses.
Many things can begin to unfold in the marriage. One person may no longer want to go out to clubs or drink too much anymore - leaving the other spouse to feel tempted towards someone else who does. Or the person may no longer curse or talk the same, leaving the other spouse to feel like they no longer know who they are married to. Then comes an issue of tithing. The Christian may feel extreme desire to give 10% of their household income or at least some percentage, while their spouse may have no interest at all.
What to do?
Don't leave them unless you have reason according to the Bible; they commit adultery or they leave you first. And don't do things to try and make your spouse leave you!
This is where Christian spouses get tested hard! It's an awesome excuse to build your character.
Everything you do can get put under the radar by your non-believing spouse because they may or may not begin to hold you accountable. If you make mistakes, you don't get an understanding spouse; instead you get a condescending reaction. A husband will even quote a scripture like, "wives must submit to their husbands", and a non-believing wife may quote, "men love your wives like Christ loved the church"... then they get "spiritual" on you.
If a spouse won't allow you to tithe then read this Q & A.
Pray to change your perception! The circumstances don't change so change your perspective. Just because your spouse isn't understanding doesn't mean that you can't be more understanding without judging. You should be mature enough to know what you are dealing with and make daily intentional choices to genuinely love your spouse regardless of how they act. If a spouse becomes violent or abusive in any other way, then report it - get help.
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