What To Really Do When Your Spouse Looks Guilty...

What do you do when every arrow points to your spouse cheating but deep down you think they're not?

1. First. Think rationally and remember that arrows are meant to harm and pierce deeply. Don't be [an easy] target! Therefore, be careful not to act simply off the appearance of things. Keep peace and shun negative thinking if you can.

2. Be honest and examine yourself. Are you unusually insecure? Or do you have valid reason to be suspicious; trust your instinct and don't feel bad about your suspicions. Suspicions are sometimes God's way of guiding us to a better place.

3. Do not talk to irrational people that never have peace or keep up drama, no matter how much you love them. Don't speak to anyone that plays sides, no matter how much they love you.

4. Remember who your spouse is. Trust that special part of them that made you feel secure from the beginning. It's okay to believe that they are not cheating on you. Have faith. Pray the Lord expose them to him/herself and fill their heart with understanding and wisdom if they have been making unwise and disrespectful choices.

5. You feel your spouse has crossed marital boundaries? This doesn't mean adultery has taken place. This is possibly a danger zone for it to soon occur so you must be confident in what you see and respectfully discuss what you have noticed. Tell them in so many words that you see the arrows that have come to destroy your union. Respectful communication is key.

6. Do not repay evil for evil. Don't spark more confusion by doing the same wrongs as your spouse. Be the bigger person and simply act like you have a life outside of him/her. :o)

7. You must still do your part! Love and admonish your spouse and don't be afraid to be made a fool of; you know, the feeling of being naive or gullible while s/he sleeps around.

8. Trust the Almighty! Don't look for negative signs because that gives room for evil to cloud your judgment. God will reveal to YOU what the real deal is. What's in the dark must always come to the light. It's a principle set forth in this earth that must occur. God will confirm whether your spouse is guilty or not and your heart will not be changed. You will be secure in your knowing.

Be blessed!